You can not force a change in the way you address challenges, you can only change your outward approach. If you try to go outside of your natural way to handle problems, the solution will be forced and not last. We can change our outlook, we can seek enlightenment, we can improve our mindfulness and the way we seek our answers. But in the end, we will be who we are and anything else would be denying our true nature.
Follow the stream and let nature take its course. Water will seek its own path and you should be the same way. Follow your intuition and act according to your own way.