The wise master teaches more through being than doing. Leading often requires us to be still and listen. Only with an open mind and appreciation for another's point of view, do we learn ourselves.
If you want someone to listen to what you have to say, there is the necessity of "speaking the language". That might sound intuitive, but when I say that I mean REALLY speaking the language; taking into account body language, pauses, culture, and everything else that is being conveyed. You can speak all day but if you are talking to those who have already tuned you out, you might as well be talking to a wall.
Once we can understand the perspective of our adversary, we can see the path that they are going to take and meet them there. If you refuse to see where they are going, any path could be the wrong one, or worse, the fatal one.